If youíre single, every first date feels the same. Never mind the fact that it seems to tourists that there are too many restaurants to choose from. They all feel the same when youíre sitting across the table from someone and you have nothing to talk about.
Never mind that it feels like youíve been to every bar for singlesí night. Youíve been at upscale places where youíve paid more for a glass of wine than you would normally pay to buy the whole bottle. Youíve tried the super-trendy places where all the drinks glow in the dark. But it doesnít matter. You feel like you could be having a better time at the corner dive bar in your neighborhood with the $2 draft special. Actually, youíre quite sure that you would be. At least there you could talk to the bartender.
Youíve tried speed dating, but with some of the people that you met, even six minutes of talking with them was more than enough. And though there was that one girl who you thought might have potential, you came to find out that she was married and there to support her best friend, glad to have a night away from the kids.
Speaking of nights away from the kids, when did your favorite music club start letting in teenagers? Okay, sure, theyíre almost 20, but more and more youíre starting to feel like youíre out of place and never going to meet anyone.
It doesnít have to be that way. You donít have to rely on your friends to set you up. You donít have to scour personal ads or try to find some online match-making service. Nor do you have to settle on a life of loneliness.
Why not spend some time going out and meeting people who actually have interests similar to yours? Think about it. Of all the people in Manhattan, there have to be other single people who enjoy getting out and having a great time.
But how do you find them? One of the easiest ways to find the perfect person to spend your time with is to stop looking. Think about your own interests. Think about getting out and having fun doing things that you enjoy.
Maybe you are looking for outdoor adventure. Maybe youíre looking for a new experience. Maybe you want to get out of town for a day or two.
All of these things are possible. And it doesnít have to be difficult to find them. Plenty of singles get together and have fun doing things that they love.
Itís not that itís a group date into the woods. Instead, itís a group of people who go out and explore common ground. Itís a group of people with common interests getting together.
And if it so happens that you meet someone at one of these groups who gets you thinking that you want to go out and see what would happen on a date, terrific. You can go out to one of those restaurants or bars and know that you will actually have something to talk about.
Meeting other singles while youíre in a group takes the pressure off. If youíre out having fun, youíre not thinking about what you should be saying or doing to impress the person. If youíre focused on an activity that you really enjoy, youíll be more yourself.
So will the other singles on the trip. They too will be focused on what theyíre doing, and on having fun. And youíll share some laughs and youíll get to know one another.
Whatís the worst that can happen? You donít make a love connection, but you
you enjoy hanging out with. That seems like the next best thing.