Ladies, we all want the secrets to get the guy you want. The truth is, there are many ways to get the guy you want, but the first thing I advise girls, is to start by BEING the GIRL GUYS WANT. Here’s some tips to shed some light on the things that guys like, and don’t like when it comes to finding a compatible partner.
Keep Jealousy and Insecurity Out of It
A major relationship killer for anyone is when jealousy and insecurity peer its ugly head. It’s one of those emotions that get your guy feeling like he was to run and hide. When you show signs of insecurity and jealousy, it’s as if you’re loading a gun and about to shoot straight for the relationship. It’s a major turn off. Although it’s natural to want your man all to yourself at times, but those emotions and behaviors are generally associated with poor self-esteem and lack of trust. Your guy will feel as if you don’t trust him when you start to question his whereabouts or ask a million questions about who his female friends are. Guys are attracted to confident women, and those that have control of their emotions. A little jealousy is acceptable and maybe even “cute” if you’re fishing for a compliment or some reassurance after an argument; but NOT when it’s a constant issue that continues to be a sore point for him.
Don’t Put Your Guy Down
If you are noticing a theme about guys and how really basic and simple they can be when it comes to making them happy; it’s because it doesn’t take much to please them. Clearly if praising him is a great way to keep him coming back, putting him down is a sure fire way to shoo him away. Firstly, it’s never nice to publicly point out his flaws or make him feel bad when he’s done something you think is stupid or ignorant. He’s a guy. He will forget an important date or something off the grocery list. He may be late. He might leave his wet towel on the floor. He may leave the toilet seat up. He might even forget to call. He will make mistakes. Knowing that you’ve entered a relationship with the opposite sex means that you have to be patient and accepting. Respect his efforts and don’t put him down. When you behave this way, you resemble his mother, and you become extremely unattractive. In fact, he may not want to have sex with you for a while; or at least until he stops picturing you with your finger out swinging up and down like an old un-sexy school master.
Don’t Give It Up Too Quickly
There is a constant debate over when is the right time to have sex and how long should you make him wait before giving it up? I will say this. It’s been in my experience and in the experience of hundreds of women I’ve talked to; when you make a guy wait, he puts you in the “long-term relationship” category. When you give it up, he puts you in the “short-term relationship” category. There are no “do-overs” when it comes to the timing of sex. In other words, you can’t have sex RIGHT AWAY, and then make him wait afterwards. It’s too late. You gave it up, and lost your opportunity to be viewed as future wife material. At least this is what many guys have also shared with me. Are there exceptions? Of course there are. But if you really want to increase your odds to be viewed as a long-term possibility; don’t give it up too quickly. Nowadays, waiting for at least 6-8 weeks would be considered ample time.
Don’t Be Like His Mom
Nagging is also a death sentence for early relationships where guys are concerned. As soon as you nag, an image of their mother pops in their head. Or you remind him of some super annoying relative or sibling that he can’t stand. If you’re in a new relationship with a guy and you already discovered a need to nag, he’s just discovered a reason to leave. If you’ve ever watched a Charlie Brown episode, the minute he senses nagging, he tunes you out, and you sound like the infamous school teacher. You know “whomp whamp whomp, whamp, whomp, whomp, whomp”. Mission: unaccomplished. Your guy just wants to be appreciated, and not told what to do.
Respect Your Guy’s Privacy
Everyone needs their privacy and so does your guy. If you’re constantly asking questions about who this person is, or that person who’s commenting on his Facebook wall, showing up in his Twitter feeds or Instagram (yet you’re always asking about some attractive girl and NOT the guys commenting) you appear to be insecure and also invading some of his privacy. It’s especially annoying when guys catch their girlfriends or potential partners sneaking a glimpse of their cell phone screen or messages, or trying to unlock their partners’ phone while they’ve stepped away. Some girls want to unlock ALL their codes and have an “Open All Access Pass” to all their private things. It would seem to a guy that you want to play Staff Sargent, rather than girlfriend and that point.
I hope this helps give you some insight to what guys want in order for you to get an edge above the rest.