“What do you do, when you and another person agree that it will be a purely "sexual" relationship, no strings attached. (NSA- is the new acronym) After the first "encounter", he ignores you and randomly returns your calls. How should the girl proceed?
A friend of mine asked me a question based on a recent discussion she had with a friend of hers and this of course compels me to write articles that I hope with enlighten and inspire others.
The conversation they had deal with “casual sex” and here’s the question: “What do you do, when you and another person agree that it will be a purely "sexual" relationship, no strings attached. (NSA- is the new acronym) After the first "encounter", he ignores you and randomly returns your calls. How should the girl proceed?
There are 2 aspects to this question; I’ll deal with “he randomly returns calls” first, because the “nsa” is a booty call. It should not be confused with “dating”, so one calls when they wish the booty, it’s pretty simple and straightforward, yet many cannot really deal with this type of reality (mostly women have a hard time with this)
Prior to embarking upon the “nsa” the 2 people have to be very clear and even then things happen after the initial sexual escapade, there is something to be said about “the morning after the night before” and we tend to rethink or re-evaluate perhaps what we’ve done and this leads to us changing our minds. The other reasons are, that one of the parties didn’t enjoy it and they “ignore” due to not being able to deal with actually coming out and saying “thanks, but no thanks”
So, if that’s the case, chock it up to an experience and move on!
Unfortunately, a lot of people don’t know how what the “nsa” is nor do they know how to handle this type of relationship. Many women think that after 2 or 3 times of casual sex, they’re dating. This is a mistake, as “casual sex”, or simply stated the booty call; “nsa” means just that… it’s just sex, for pure sexual release and pleasure.
So, if you questions like “but can’t we go to a movie?” or “grab a bite together” hey, if that’s what you both want, great. However, the real “nsa” relationship is based on sexual needs, a phone call or text message and sex follows. You enjoy each other, politely leave and never sleep over! That’s the real hard fact of the “nsa”.
If you can’t handle it, then you should not pursue it.
Terri Giosia
Singles Coach
