The Top Ten First Date Blunders Men and Women Make

Sep 03, 2010 No Comments »

First dates are critical, and the fact that we know this makes them harder than they really should be. We strive to impress and to decipher what kind of person we’re out with. With all the tension and stress all this causes, we end up committing any one, or all, of the following first date crimes.

10. Divulging too much

It’s great to get out with someone new and talking about all you have to say. Still, there are some things that should remain personal and other things that should at least wait until a later date. When in doubt about something, keep it to yourself.

9. Answering the phone

You shouldn’t even have your phone on when going on a date. As soon as you answer a call, you are telling the person you’re out with that you have something better to do, or someone you’re more interested in.

8. Talking about the ex

Don’t talk about the ex at all. Don’t ask about their ex. This just can’t go anywhere good. Should it come up naturally in conversation it’s fine, but flee from the topic as soon as humanly possible.

7. Having far too high expectations

When you go into a date with any expectations you’re liable to disappoint yourself. Expectations are anything from thinking this will be the one to thinking this will end in a kiss. Plan to enjoy yourself, and take things no further than that in your mind.

6. Planning a long outing

When you plan a long date, it’s like having high expectations. Plan first dates so that they are short. This gives you an out if it’s a bad time, but it also gives you more to look forward to, in the next date, should things go great.

5. Showing off the friends

Your date should not cross paths with your friends, so stay away from their regular haunting grounds. Most of us have at least two selves, and the one that hangs out with friends is not the one that goes out on dates.

4. Getting drunk

Getting drunk on a date is plain old rude. Even if you think you can hold your liquor and that your drunk self isn’t such a bad person. Keep the drinking to a minimum, because the person you’re out with should be enough to give you the buzz you need.

3. Not doing enough listening
Sometimes we spend so much time without anyone new to talk to that we shower our dates with everything that we’ve been holding in for weeks. Avoid this or risk scaring them away. Instead, try to listen to what they have to say.

2. Assuming you’re the greatest of the great

Don’t be cocky. Confidence is great, but it should shine naturally. Don’t pose yourself as the greatest thing since sliced bread, or you’ll look like you have an ego the size of New York. No one wants to date an ego.

1. Hitting the taboo topics

Taboo topics are taboo. That’s the point. First dates and topics like politics, controversial world events and whatnot don’t mix well. They instantly drive things from being casual and fun to heated and… not fun. Skip the taboos and stick with the pleasantries.

Until Next Time,

Phil
Meet Market Adventures Dating Expert
phil@meetmarketadventures.com

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