How to Pickup Women at a Bar: Find the Ones That Want You

Aug 30, 2010 1 Comment »

I once read a wonderful book about picking up women—written by a woman, incidentally—and the author began with a story about a man who brought her out on the prowl to show her how well he does. He did very well. The kicker to all this was that he was a short chubby man, kinda balding and, frankly, the last guy you’d expect to be a lady’s man.

What he taught her that night is something a lot of guys were lucky enough to learn at an early age. It’s that one of the best secrets to picking up women is not to pick them up. In other words, don’t look for women to impress and win over. Look for women who are already into you. With a little know how, this can be done in an instant.

The idea is to walk into wherever you’re walking into. A bar or a club or even a singles event. Women will look at you. It’s normal and it’s natural. What you do at that time is look to see which ones are looking at you, and which of those women are actually into you.

The first clue that a woman is into you is when she looks for a prolonged period of time. Prolonged is anything beyond a glance. Unless you happened to die your hair pink that day, chances are a long look is an interested look. Maybe it’s not an all out “I want him”, but it’s a good place to start nonetheless.

At the same time, look for body language. Are they in a closed off stance or an open stance. Are they leaning towards the people they are with, towards you or more neutral (hint: the latter two are good)? A head cocked to the side and a bit of skin being exposed are also good things to see. She may even lean over and whisper to a friend—our self conscious selves want to assume she’s saying something bad, but what could that be? It’s probably good.

Once you identify the ones that are interested in you, the next step is simple. Just talk to her. Offer to buy her a drink. Don’t be too eager and don’t try too hard, at this point you want her to work to win you over, and she will work. To get better at this, do some research into human body language and you’ll be well on your way. Then, let us know how it goes.

Until Next Time,

Phil
Meet Market Adventures Dating Expert
phil@meetmarketadventures.com

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