MMA Singles Dating Blog

Monday night used to be games night. That was anything from Monopoly to poker, and usually took place in someone’s apartment with the usual crowd plus any random invites. Wednesdays was karaoke at some downtown bar, and again the same crowd would show with some people brining along a new friend or two. Fridays were always random but far too often involved a birthday celebration somewhere. Not surprisingly, the same crowd kept showing up. As for Sundays, well, that was an anything goes day but the invite list didn’t change.

That was then, and then went on for quite a while. As for now, things are a lot different. Not only has every night become a whatever goes night, but the invite list is virtually nonexistent. These days there are fewer people to drag along and who ends up coming along is different every time.

There isn’t much of a mystery as to why things have changed so much. The games weren’t lost, the bars didn’t burn down and the crowd didn’t move away. All that happened was a few lousy weddings. Joe married Barbara, Janice married Will, Joan married Jon, and Don married some girl none of us had ever heard of. (Names have been changed to protect the nuptualized.) Needless to say, married people don’t like going out for some reason. No, that’s not true. They just don’t seem to invite out the singles as often, possibly out of concern that the condition is contagious.

While I’m happy for them (so that they don’t have to be happy on their own?), it’s pretty much put a big hole in my dating life. I mean, in the good old days meeting singles would often happen on those group nights. Sure, when we’d go out to the bars we’d often meet people, something that seems easier when you’re traveling with a large crowd, but a lot of connections were the result of friends bringing out their friends. Or running into their friends.

Dating was so easy back then because all I’d have to do was flirt with the new people a while. If things went well I’d take them out for a drink alone. Somewhere in there our mutual friend would gossip about me to her, and her to me, and in the end all was well with the world.

Now that the married folk have moved on with their lives and the regular nights out have disappeared, we singles who’ve been left behind are pretty much lost, left to fend for ourselves. I don’t have to tell you how difficult that can be.

Do you have a lot of single friends? Or have most of them gone off on their married way? If it’s the latter, have things changed for you? Is meeting singles any harder than it used to be? Maybe it’s a coincidence. Maybe it’s all those other factors at play. Whatever your thoughts are on the matter, feel free to share them by adding a comment below. As for me, don`t worry; I was sick of games night anyway.