When you’re craving the loving lips of your perfect partner to kiss at midnight, it’s kind of a downer to be all alone.
But you can make 2011 the year you finally meet your ideal mate. And New Year’s Eve is the perfect time to step into a slate-clearing ritual which will be the first step to attracting real love next year.
So instead of heading out to a party, where the sight of all those happy couples might send you into a spiral of depression, here’s an uplifting way to spend the first night of the New Year.
New Year Ritual for Singles
Step 1: Set the Space for Romance
Create a comforting space where you can reflect upon last year and your desires for next year- maybe with candles, music, warm blankets, and your favorite snacks. The mood you are aiming for is gratitude: grateful appreciation for what has been and grateful expectation for what will be.
Step 2: Express Gratitude for the Gifts
Make a gratitude list from all of your dating experience last year. First focus on all of the experiences you don’t actually feel grateful for.
As you list them, tune into what the lesson was in each uncomfortable event. What was the gift? How was it asking you to step into your Best Self? Can you be appreciative of that opportunity? Wrap your list up with all of the dating experiences you actually do feel gratitude for.
Soak in that attitude of gratitude as you read your list out loud, thanking each person for the gem of opportunity they offered to you even if you didn’t recognize the gift until right this moment.
Step 3: Write Your Love Story
From this warm-hearted space, let’s step into your vision of love in the New Year. It’s time to write your very own love story. Yup- I want you to imagine what it will look and feel like once you are happily in love with your ideal partner.
Picture a scene you are looking forward to experiencing and write it out with all the details of every sense- what will you see, feel, hear, touch, taste, smell? Bring it to life in all it’s glory. Now you have a visualization you can use every day- once you step into this feeling, you become a mate magnet.
Step 4: Invite Your Mate to Join You
Standing in your power as a mate magnet, the last step to our ritual is to compose a letter to your beloved. After experiencing this future scene, what are all of the things you wish to say to the love of your life?
Consider this paper at once a thank you note, a love letter, and a personal invitation for this person to appear in your life. Once it’s done, place it in an envelope, and put it in a special drawer that you have cleared to be your partners once they show up.
Then go to sleep with the grateful expectation that real love will be yours in the new year, knowing that you just set the stage perfectly for your true love to walk into your life and sweep you off your feet.
Until Next Time,
Jennifer Oikle, PH.D.
Dr. Jenn is a clinical psychologist, dating coach, and authentic attraction expert. Her passion is helping singles attract real love that lasts. After meeting her husband on the internet she also helps singles find the perfect partner online. How long will it be till you find The One? Take Dr. Jenn’s quizzes at: www.mysoulmatesolution.com and www.meetyourmateonline.com.