Single Woman’s Life: Do it Yourself Spa

Jul 31, 2010 No Comments »

You’ve read it here, you’ve heard it from friends and you see it on TV. When you need to unwind and get your wits back about you, going to a spa can be an invaluable tool. The problem is that the credit card that pays for the spa eventually sends you a bill, and then the stress comes back. No one needs that. Fortunately you can get the spa treatment without spending the money. Stay home, and do it yourself.

You can always start with an at-home facial. Your drugstore will have some supplies for this, but you can splurge and go to the health shops and set yourself up perfectly. There’s some more mess to this, as you’re the one cleaning it up after, but whatever. Leave it until the next day. A mess greeting you in the morning is better than a huge credit card bill greeting you and the end of the month.

A warm bath is the next thing to prepare, but not just the bath of course. Get some bath salts as well as some incense going, shut off the lights and relax. Playing some music to sooth the mood at the same time is nice, but if you can shut out all the noises and just enjoy the silence, that’ll do you one better.

A massage is also an always welcome thing, but one of the harder things to duplicate. There are, however, a lot of options out there to simulate the perfect massage and getting one of those gadgets will serve you well. Whether it’s a handheld device, or a vibrating chair cushion, you’ll be able to shut out the world for a while and just enjoy the pleasant feeling.

Sure, there’s the one downside to this. You feel pampered at times, but you never actually are pampered. At least, no one’s doing it for you. I’m willing to be you won’t care, however, once you get the ball rolling. Tried it? Going to try it? Let us know what you think.

Until Next Time,

Phil
Meet Market Adventures Dating Expert
phil@meetmarketadventures.com

Social Network Safety Tips for Singles

Jul 31, 2010 No Comments »

Singles and social networking go hand in hand. It’s us singles who initially turned Facebook and Myspace into what they are today. It’s also us singles who are most at risk of doing things on social networks that can harm us in the long run. When using those two services, or any other, keep in mind that these are some things that you should never reveal.

Never ever give too much information about your birth

Okay, gross. That’s not what I meant. What this is all about is your birthday and birthplace. If you were born on July 8th, awesome, tell everyone. The year, however, and the place is too much information. That does more than give identity thieves a head start in gathering information about you, but it can also be enough to crack your Social Security number as well, for those living in the States, and the equivalent to those of us up in the Great White North.

Don’t give your dating status

Giving your dating status doesn’t seem like too big of a deal, but it can come back to bite you in the rear someday. If you must share, just post it to your Facebook wall or whatever, and then everyone can see. Actually filling in the “in a relationship with” section will just really hurt should you ever have to change that. Not to think too pessimistically, but you know you’ve seen friends have their wounds salted because of Facebook saying “Hey, look who just broke up!”

Keep that singles cruise your business

Don’t tell the social networks your heading off on a singles vacation, unless you’re already planning on putting out a welcome platter for the burglars who’ll be stopping by. Advertising when your home will be vacant, whatever kind of trip your taking, is just bad, bad thinking. Even when you have a friend house-sitting, this just means they may be put in a bad situation.

Don’t post clues to crack your codes

You know when your online banking service asks security questions like your mother’s maiden name, your first dog, and the place you were born? Those are only helpful to your security if you don’t give the answers to those questions away on your social network pages. It’s easy to think that it’d be a lot of work to gather all that info up, but it’s work that people are willing to do. And they do do it, as the payoff is great.

What social networking security tips do you have for other singles out there? If you have tips or have ever been bitten hard for making a mistake like this, let us know. Just add a comment below to share your thoughts.

Until Next Time,

Phil
Meet Market Adventures Dating Expert
phil@meetmarketadventures.com

Single and Going to the Bar Alone

Jul 31, 2010 No Comments »

There’s nothing wrong with going to a bar alone, it just feels wrong sometimes. But this is a social place where people like to go to unwind, or to meet new people. Neither of those things require company. The fact that we think others judge us tends to bring the experience down a few pegs. Still, if you need a night out and a drink or two, don’t worry about inviting others along. Hold your head up and hit your favorite pub.

Don’t Drive!!!

Yup, that got three exclamation marks. If you’re going to a bar alone, driving is just ridiculous. Even if you know you can handle the amount of booze you’re planning on drinking, you may end up drinking more than that. Take a cab to the bar, or go to one that’s close enough to walk to. Safety first, right? Good. Now that that’s out of the way…

Go Where Everybody Knows Your Name

Or at least go to a bar that your already familiar with and relaxed at. You may think that you’re best to go to a bar that you don’t go to regularly so that no one “sees you alone(!!!)” but this will just make you feel out of place, which is not what you’re going for. Go somewhere you are comfortable. If that’s not enough to make you relax, think of it this way: Anyone who recognizes you will know that you usually go there with friends, so there’s nothing to judge you for. Not that there should be.

Watch the Game

Watch the game or play the game. Whatever. Find some kind of distraction to make your evening more than just sitting on a barstool by yourself. If there’s a game on, watch and cheer. If it’s quiz night, grab a controller and play along. This will help keep you in the best spirits so that you…

Don’t Get All Shy

Have a good time and don’t hide yourself. If you are happy to be at the bar alone, and it’s your choice to be at the bar alone, then enjoy it. Talk to people. Make eye contact. You may end up meeting someone special, making a friend, or at least having a great conversation.

When’s the last time you went to a bar alone, or to a movie alone for that matter? Did it prove to be a great night, or is it something you’ll never do again? I’m better it was the former, but let us know by adding a comment and sharing your thoughts.

Until Next Time,

Phil
Meet Market Adventures Dating Expert
phil@meetmarketadventures.com

How to Win Your Ex Back After a Breakup

Jul 31, 2010 No Comments »

Breakups are hard, but they aren’t always permanent. Sometimes they prove to be no more than a bump in the road. If you want to win your ex back, there are some steps you can take that will help make it happen. Play your cards right, and you never know.

Step 1: Don’t try to win your ex back

Yeah, you read that right. The honest truth is, if you broke up there was likely reasons for it, and those reasons will either work themselves out over time and you’ll get back together naturally, or they won’t because it wasn’t meant to be. In the case of the latter, winning them back any other way will just prove to be delaying the inevitable.

Step 2: Figure out what went wrong

No one wants the first piece of advice, and who knows, sometimes odds are defied and getting back together actually works out. So, now you have to figure out why the breakup happened. This is often clear cut, and has obvious follow throughs. If you weren’t pay enough attention to them while dating, you have to learn to do better.

Step 3: Show that the problem is fixed, or that you’re willing to fix it

This type of thing has no clear description. It depends on what the issues were to begin with. In the case described in Step 2, you may do something as simple as writing a detailed letter that shows you’ve been paying attention, that shows you’re interested, and shows you care. The point is to figure out the issue and fix it, and then communicate that to your ex.

Step 4: Go slow

If you dive back into a relationship, you’re more likely to be doomed. If you lived together, don’t move back in right away. If you saw each other five times a week, start off at once or twice a week. Also, indicate that this is the path you want to take so as to prove things can be better. This will keep the pressure off your ex.

Now, let’s go back to Step 1. That’s the step a lot of exes wish you’d take seriously. If your ex doesn’t respond and you feel like you’re begging, you probably are. Right after begging comes stalking, and that can get you into more than a little trouble. So, be aware, move carefully, and respect your exes space. Then, sometimes, you may have to just accept it’s over.

Until Next Time,

Phil
Meet Market Adventures Dating Expert
phil@meetmarketadventures.com

Sure Signs You’ve Been Single Too Long

Jul 30, 2010 No Comments »

Here are some sure signs that you’ve been single too long. What do you do about it if you fit the descriptions? Well, that’s another article altogether.

You actually believe no one wants you

If you are at the point where you believe no one wants to be with you, you’ve been single too long. This is a symptom of built up low self esteem, not a reflection of reality. I’ve yet to meet anybody in the world who should actually believe no one wants to be with them.

You lose all sense of dating standards

You’ve gone from a point where there was a certain type of person you were looking for to the point where anyone with a pulse will do, if that. There are definitely times when one should reassess whether or not their standards are too high and if they’re being too picky, but to totally give up on finding what you want because it’s been so long is flat out unfair—to yourself, and to whoever you end up dating.

You completely let yourself go

A lot of guys let themselves go after they’ve been in a relationship. Other guys try hard to look good so they can find a woman, but then completely give up on themselves when they can’t find one. If you’ve started a junk food diet and a couch surfing hobby over the last few months, you’ve probably been single for far too long. Let’s face it, eventually we need a woman to tell us how to eat and what to do.

All dating advice sounds like it’s worth a try

You grasp at dating advice as if it was your last breath of air. This is when you’re desperate and will do anything to win a woman over. Things that would have sounded nuts a year ago suddenly sound like smart ideas. Here’s when you step back and think things through. Don’t follow dumb advice, please.

Have you been single too long? Perhaps you know someone who has been. What sorts of tell tale signs do they carry around that lets you know they’ve been out of a relationship far too long?

Until Next Time,

Phil
Meet Market Adventures Dating Expert
phil@meetmarketadventures.com